The Healing Work of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is one of the hardest things we’re asked to do; especially when people carry unresolved issues of their own. Sooner or later, those issues spill over. And if you’re a person in authority, or someone who naturally leads with strength, compassion, or influence, you will eventually touch a sensitive place in someone else.

I’ve learned this the long, painful way.

In my upcoming book, I share how God taught me to forgive; deeply, honestly, and without losing myself in the process.

But here is what I know now:

Unforgiveness will quietly steal your peace.

Forgiveness will quietly return it.

And forgiveness isn’t just for what others did.

Sometimes the hardest person to forgive is yourself.

We carry guilt after someone passes away, wondering if we could have done more.

We blame ourselves for heartbreak, financial loss, emotional wounds, broken relationships, or moments we wish we handled differently.

But God never asked us to live in shame.

He asked us to live in grace.

“Bear with each other and forgive one another… Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” — Colossians 3:13

“For if you forgive others… your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” — Matthew 6:14

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” — Ephesians 4:32

Forgiveness doesn’t mean allowing unhealthy behavior to continue.

Healthy relationships move forward when forgiveness is quick.

And even in unhealthy relationships, forgiveness frees your heart; even if distance is necessary.

Forgiveness protects your contribution, your character, and your calling.

Do not let unforgiveness discredit your impact or distort the love God placed in you.

You deserve the peace that comes from letting go.